Our Role

Too many times I have said that we women always come last. WE hold the house together, WE cook, WE clean, WE make and go to appointments with the kids, WE make sure they're are taken care of, WE drive the kids to school or daycare, WE stay up all night with them when they have gastro and WE clean AND disinfect the entire house to make sure no one else gets it, WE do the laundry, yes WE know where hubby last left his wallet and keys, WE are the shoulder to cry on, and finally but not least WE work (most of us full time...).

I know that I might gets some weird look or haters after I state the following (you know what? I really don't care what others think): I personally think that we women have shot ourselves in the foot when it comes to our role in the household. Let's roll back the clock 200 years and women were stay at home mothers that did all of the above mentioned except the working full time part. Men provided the income to support the family household (they didn't do much as of taking care of the children which in my eyes should of been a must, but that's another topic for a later debate). Women held down the fort. With all of this pushing to be equal parts in this world, men have come to accept us as equal counter parts and have learned to work side by side with us. Great for us, but men (not all but most) expect us to do the same things we did before even if we are equal counter parts and work full time.... So we get shafted with not one (taking care of kids and household) but two full time jobs. We literally work 24/7 and then some.

We wake up an extra hour before everyone else in the house, to take a shower, make lunches for everyone, wake everyone up in time, and go pull them out of bed 15 mins later (hubby included). Dress the kids, see them off to school or daycare (sometimes that includes dropping them off) and rush off to work where you are expected to give your 150% and succeed as a woman in the work place. Rush to pick up the kids from daycare, rush home, make dinner, clean up dinner (sometimes the hubby will help with this cause you've nagged him enough to do so), bathe the kids, read stories and put them to bed. After that, you run around the house to tidy up, do laundry and prepare for the next day.

Hubby gets woken up in the morning, then pulled out of bed 15 mins later. Takes a shower while the kids are eating breakfast, gathers his things for work and runs out. He often gives his 150% and is very successful. Comes home and sits down for dinner, cleans up dinner cause he doesn't want to hear you complain anymore, sits in front of the TV to watch his shows...

Ok so generally speaking I'm exaggerating the stories, but I just want to show the delegation of responsibilities that usually arise in a family setting. Yes some men are more than willing to help around the house with chores and this is not your “typical” family functioning but the point is that we women tend to have more responsibilities when it comes to life.

It doesn't take a 100w bulb to figure out why all types of depression are on the rise in women...

I sometimes catch myself fantasizing about what life would be like for myself if I was born in the 1800's. I may have been in a arranged marriage with someone that I may not love fully, being intimate would include me practically getting raped, and I would leave my house only on very rare occasions to attend a funeral or two. We have come a long way from that and I am truly thankful for it. But I believe we still have a lot of ground to cover and a lot of adaption. I've had this discussion with my husband before and he has admitted to me that if he had to do everything that I do in one day, he wouldn't be able to do it for long.